There’s a lot of anger in the world today for a hell of a lot of reasons. People are angry at the politicians, angry about big business, about the climate, about employment, and about money.
When you’re angry, it’s a red flag that something needs to change, and when you’re extremely angry, something needs to change right away.
– You shouldn’t keep arguing
Staying in the conversation when you have difficulty modulating your anger makes it likely you’ll say things you’ll regret. Getting into a heated argument doesn’t just put you in a bad mood. It can also compromise your ability to perform everyday tasks, that could be dangerous for you or the people around you. Use the time out to actively calm the mind and the body so that you express yourself in a more mindful, intentional manner.
Identify Why : Extreme anger typically stems from a build-up of smaller annoyances. It’s like lighting a match: a person or situation rubs you the wrong way and your suppressed emotions flood to the surface. The problem isn’t the delay in dealing with your anger, it’s when the delay turns into avoiding it altogether. Either the initial rage subsides and you try to shrug it off, or you’re so consumed by your schedule that you simply add it to the pile of unresolved issues.
– You shouldn’t drink alcohol
Reaching for a glass of wine to calm yourself down after an angry encounter often does the opposite. “Alcohol makes it more likely you’ll act out your anger because it removes impulse control.” Alcohol lowers inhibitions by acting on the frontal lobes of the brain, which are responsible for controlling the impulses that prevent us from giving in to urges to harm others or ourselves.
– You shouldn’t drive while angry:
“When you’re angry, you’re primed for attack, so it’s not a good time to jump in a vehicle,” Research shows that angry drivers take more risks and have more accidents, says David Narang, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist.
If you turn your attention elsewhere, it will help you focus on the present moment and prioritize your emotions. Think of a pleasant memory, read a book, find your happy place, go out( buy something, watch television, talk to a friend). During these quiet moments, see if you can think of ways to cut down or cut out the triggers that are making you angry.
– Don’t react out of emotion:
When your child or anyone is angry, rather than reacting out of emotion, which will escalate things, do whatever you need to do to step out of the situation. Walk away, take some deep breaths, and try your best to stay objective and in control.
– Never leave a matter unsetteled:
When we lose our temper, we often come up with arguments that are related to some unresolved incidents that happened in the past. This struggle for proving oneself right simply makes the situation worse. Sorting out grudges is important provided the matter is big enough to be termed a ‘grudge’. Try to learn to avoid little things surrounded by you.
– Avoid Telephonic conversation:
When speaking over phone, you cannot make out the tone of the person you are talking to accurately as you cannot eye his/her facial expressions. Thus, talking over phone often makes circumstances more crappy.
– Never Stay Alone:
Avoid being a loner especially when you are heated. Talk to a friend, family member or even a stranger and express your emotions. If you feel like crying, Remember, nobody is a MAN enough to lack any emotion. Moreover, this will help you avoid depending on drugs, cigarettes or alcohol.
– You shouldn’t ignore your blood pressure:
The risk of a heart attack and stroke increases in the two hours following angry outbursts, especially among former heart attack patients, according to a study from the European Heart Journal. Heart attack risk increased nearly five times and stroke risk rose by three times.
What You can do to avoid it:
– Listen to Music:
Music is one of the best things to have in your dealing-with-anger arsenal for several reasons:
– Listening to aggressive music that matches your mood allows you to work through the emotion productively.
– Listening to slower music (such as acoustic) allows you to slow your thought process and calm down.
– Listening to specific songs with lyrics that relate to what you’re going through help you put your own experiences into perspective.
– Turning up the volume allows you to drown out your thought process when “the little things” are irritating and distracting you.
Whatever your fear, anger trumps fear in the rock-paper-scissors of life. It will productively push you to where you want to be, but you have to let it.
Anger is a natural, though sometimes unwanted or irrational, emotion that everybody experiences from time to time. Own your anger. Don’t let it own you!!